Ruby and Sapphire are both Corundum – a very hard and heavy substance – second only to diamond in hardness. The red corundum is called Ruby and all the other colors, yellow, green, peach, pink, white, and of course, blue, are called Sapphire.
The red color comes from chromium and the blue from iron and titanium. It takes a very small amount of these elements to create the color – corundum itself is colorless. This is the first point of fascination: how the tiniest trace amount of an element sets up a synergy delivering such an enhanced dynamic.
Incidentally, the name Corundum comes from the Sanskrit “korundum” and our name “Schapera” comes from the word Sapphire. (Sapphire and Schapera use the same 3 Hebrew letters.)
In industry, Corundum is used as an abrasive because of its hardness, to drill holes in diamonds and synthetic ruby is used to make a medical/surgical laser. There we have it – a Crystal Surgery tool, first invented in 1960!
All this is very interesting but not exactly what Ruby and Sapphire want to talk to us about. When I asked Ruby, “what do you want to say?” Ruby said: “You must look me up – do your research, and then I’ll talk.”
The first dynamic that struck me was how very dense Ruby and Sapphire are … so I asked Ruby: “Well, what does that mean?” and Ruby and Sapphire both chimed in and said: “Humans are spirits in dense form and Ruby and Sapphire are Love and Acceptance in dense form.” That means, that instead of love and acceptance being abstracts and conceptual, the mineral kingdom has given us a form of love and acceptance that we can actually hold in our hands.
Then Ruby said: “Actually, I want to explain about unconditional love. Please do some research on that too.”
As a psychologist (because that is my initial training), I have long been puzzled by this term unconditional love. As human beings we are not hardwired for unconditional love, we are hardwired for survival. And let me tell you this, the concept of Unconditional Love does not come from a religious or spiritual source – it comes from Erich Fromm, a psychoanalyst in the 1930’s, who, believe it or not was an atheist!
The concept was further developed by Carl Rogers, a Humanistic Psychologist, whom I had the very good luck to meet when he visited South Africa, and he came up with “unconditional positive regard” and “unconditional acceptance.”
Ruby explains that unconditional love is not really accessible human to human, with one exceptional phase of life, but is accessible spirit to human, and human to spirit. How ironic that the term was coined by an atheist.
Ruby also explains that the dynamic of unconditional love is ideally manifest when a mother welcomes a spirit to become her baby, and this unconditional love is ideally present pre-conception until about 3 years of age, when the requirements of socialization eclipse the “unconditional” possibility.
Instead, Ruby encourages us to attend to unconditional positive regard and Sapphire encourages us to attend to unconditional acceptance, and they are both saying: “Begin at home. Begin with yourself. Can you give your partner unconditional positive regard? Can you unconditionally accept the people in your family?
“And what about yourself? Can you give yourself unconditional positive regard? Can you give yourself unconditional acceptance in the world? This is where to begin … begin by giving yourself and your family a daily dose of unconditional positive regard and acceptance … and see what happens next.”
Thank you to our friends in the mineral kingdom for teaching us about love and acceptance.